Hi, I’m Beka. The author of this blog. Writing has always been my preferred way of processing life. From childhood journals, to a half written book that dreams of being published, writing as been my creative outlet since 1996. In 2016 I had my first baby and my life completely changed. I found myself staring at a giant pile of information and it seemed nearly impossible to dig through. I was struggling to find a version of motherhood that felt right to me. True to myself, I began writing this blog to help sift through that information and I realized that through the process, I was helping other mothers dig through the same pile of information to uncover their own way of doing motherhood.
Life has changed drastically since Beka XO was started as a brain-dump blog. We struggled for twelves months to get pregnant with our second child. We had a second son who died before he was born. We grieved and worked to heal our hearts. We had a third son, our rainbow baby, who made our lives feel fuller than ever. Through it all and over the years I have openly shared everything, the glamorous and the tragic.
Through sharing, I connected with women and mothers who were all looking for what I was looking for – someone to tell them it was ok to speak up. It was ok to talk about the ugly bits of life as well as the joys and beauty of motherhood. Now Beka XO has become a place of empowerment for me and for them.
Here, I continue to share not just a glimpse, but a full panoramic view of my motherhood whether I follow the social norms or push back against them in favor of what feels right to me. I encourage everyone in my circle to learn to use their voice, to speak up, to advocate for themselves, to do what feels right rather than what is sold as popular.
I share my way so you can find your way.
From healing after loss through prioritizing your mental health, to minimizing your life through low waste living and gentle parenting, to real life tips that make motherhood joyful, you’ll find it all here.
Thank you for being a part of my circle.